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April 23, 2018

Season of Grief.

 

Our little guy B and I were driving to school on Friday morning, listening to our favorite tunes and looking at all the houses that have hockey sticks on the front porch. It's been part of our routine now each morning for the last week and a half when this movement began to show support for those who died in the bus crash on April 6th.

And then a tiny voice from the back of the car put that anxious feeling back in to my gut .... "Gramma, when will we all put our hockey sticks away?"

I wanted to say to him "never" but I know in time, one by one, the sticks will eventually go back into the garage, the shed, wherever families across Canada store their sticks when hockey season is over. Tucked away, out of sight, safe and secure. But this isn't a hockey season. It's a season of showing our love, respect and compassion in the midst of an incredibly difficult and very public grief experience, and there is no time frame for this kind of mourning. The loss of a child is unnatural and inconceivable. A grief that no one can plan for and the healing, the moving forward is an exhausting path that never ends. So I answered him as best I could, on the cusp of the 2 week anniversary of the bus crash.

"Some people will put their sticks away soon, some may keep them out longer and some of us might leave them there forever. Right now, we're all showing the families how much we care that they have had such big losses. I think and hope they see the pictures of the hockey sticks or see them in their own community and know that they are not alone in their grief journey. It makes me proud to see so many sticks every day."

And then I asked him a question .... "B, when do you think we should put our sticks away?"

A big pause and then that tiny voice, straight from the heart of an innocent 7.5 year old boy, who is now just a bit more aware that people can die ....

"Not until after everyone else has put theirs away. If we put our sticks away at the same time, the families will feel sad that no one is thinking about them anymore. I think we'll have to leave them outside forever so they know that we still care."

And then we pulled up to the school, parked, walked to the crosswalk, said our goodbyes and he ran off to play with his friends before the morning bell. 

So for now, at our house, our hockey sticks will stay out, until B is ready, when he fully understands and is comfortable with the idea that the grieving families and the injured players will know that we are still thinking of them during their season of grief, even if our hockey sticks are no longer visible. 

April 22, 2018

Pub Food.

Each place we travel, we end up with
a favorite place to experience local food.


On our last day, we headed out to Sydney
by the Sea for a bit of shopping and dinner.


I had this scrumptious chicken sandwich
with a salad. It was so good. I can't always
eat everything on my plate but this day,
there wasn't a crumb left! Great pub food!

Breakfast Tea.

One of the perks we received from
staying at the B & B was breakfast.


The menu of tea choices was amazing.
We chose a rose inspired flavor. Lovely!


The setting was so cozy. Lots of pictures to
show the incredible history of the mansion.


Linens and high ceilings and pretty
window coverings and wood furniture.


A small but bright enclosed porch for
extra seating and stained glass windows.


We put a few of these light plates in our new
house and I loved seeing them in the B & B.


Our view included glimpses of the
harbor and the windy and choppy sea.


Breakfast served like afternoon tea. It
included quiche, scones, turkey, salmon,
french toast, butter, maple syrup and a
bit of fruit. I already at that before the shot.


Pineapple with cream cheese and an
edible flower. So good to start our meal.


A picture at the end, when we were full but not
in any rush to leave our table and our view.


Loved our waiter Carlos, who has the
most incredible story of coming to
America from Italy. He even worked
on the Disney Cruise Line. Great man!

Victoria at Night.

On our last night on the coast, we took
 a late night walk to capture the lights.


The Parliament Buildings have at least
a million lights surrounding the structure.


I can't imagine being the guy who has
to climb up and change out every bulb.


The lit fountain is a colorful touch and
a popular spot for tourist photos.


A side view of dh trying to snap just
the right shot with just the right light.


Our B & B for the night also is lit up and it's so
pretty to see it as we walked down the street.


The front veranda has different colored lights then the
rest of the building. Bright yet cozy and welcoming.

Something I Cherish.


I started this Link Party with the idea of
connecting some of my readers. But the
"free" part of it has run out so I'm now
trying to find either another tool or see
if I pay for this one if it's worth the cost.
I will keep you in the loop with what I
decide to do. I'm hoping to continue on
so that I can see how much fun it would be
if I can get it to take off and be a very popular
Sunday night gathering for all who participate.

The Empress.

 The Empress Hotel in Victoria is an
amazing piece of architecture. 


And the horse drawn carriage rides make
it even more impressive as landmark.


I do however miss the moss and the vines
that used to climb up the building. It
feels a bit too bare now. I'm sure there
was a good reason but still, it lacks a bit.


Dh always loves coming to walk around
the pretty grounds and take a peek inside. 


Right in the heart of town and looking
across the harbor, a beautiful spot to visit.

Victorian B & B.

 On the last weekend of our recent holiday,
we had the privilege of staying in this house.


It used to be a restaurant called "The
Captain's Palace" but now it's a B & B.


Nothing has changed ~ the fixtures and
decor are all original and so beautiful.


The hallway outside our door even had
an amazing and very large chandelier.


These paintings were originals and so neat
to look at each time we went to our room.


Our door to our room. Very regal and
elegant, matching the house and the time.


Little sitting area to relax and watch tv
or read. We used this when we skypped.


Mini bar. The real reason for this shot was to
show the old but comfortable claw foot tub.


The bookcase full of old books. We had
fun looking through these and even read one.


Windows that overlooked the very lush, 
green and blooming Spring garden.


Cozy bed. Not too big but comfortable
welcoming after our little walking tour.


The veranda, looking in on the breakfast
porch. A sunny spot to eat and relax.


We loved staying here and despite missing
the restaurant, it was a brilliant plan to turn
it in to a B & B. We plan to come back when
we venture out again to our little island.

April 17, 2018

Afternoon Sun.


The last few days have been so gloomy
but this happened today. So very worth the
wait and the warmth was very welcomed.
Temperatures are rising and the melt is on.